Posts Tagged ‘Thoughts’


Elastic bands (popularly known as Rubber bands) are known for their elasticity. Pull it apart and release it, it assumes a similar shape back again. Every such band has a shelf life though. Every time you stretch it and release it, the rubber keeps losing elasticity. Keep doing it often and it would give way to pressure one day. Or stretch it too hard all at once and it might snap before you realize it. What ever way you do it, the band is never the same again. It can never be back to the same state it originally started with. Laws of physics at play here.

I was comparing this to relationships. I found this uncanny similarity between the two. Let me tell you how.

Every relationship has its ups and downs but they are kept together with a similar kind of elasticity. At times when it goes through stress, the band gets pulled apart. Then you patch up your problems and the stress on the band is released. The relationship comes back to its similar original shape again. But it is now not as good as it originally was. The fact that it was put under stress would always remain somewhere at the back of your mind. However hard you try, its close to impossible to bring it back to the original state.

Now keep doing this many times. Over and over again. At times pull it a bit, at times a lot. Every pull is pulling it away from its original shape/state. Cross the limits and one day it snaps free. Breakups and incurable sorrows.

On the other hand, keep the band as-is and don’t put any stress on it. It would get quite boring. After a while it might just decompose and lose everything it could have done. Lifeless and meaningless relationships!

Rubber bands need to be seasoned with care. You pull it too hard in the the first go and it snaps out without a fight. Early breakups and sorrows. It has a better chance of surviving if stresses are on a low side at start and the rubber gets seasoned. After a bit, it would have better chance of surviving a bit more stress. After a while a bit more. Gradual increase in stress makes us seasoned and we learn how to handle it well. A bit more and we readjust and learn again. Control the stress on that band!

Some bands are thick and some are thin. The better the band is, the better the survival rates. Similar analogy can be made with relationships. The more flexibility between the two, the thicker the band is.

Isn’t it a bizarre similarity!

What kind of bands are your relationships? What state are they presently in? Keep the elasticity in check. Something to think about…

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Where is your time?

Posted: March 3, 2014 in Life, Me, Thoughts
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A picture is worth a thousand words.

Heard that quote before? I am sure no one agrees to this more than a passionate photographer wanting to depict a story of what they see in a slice of time. I loved this quote when I first heard it. After reading this, I started seeing every picture I came across very differently. The more I looked at pictures, the more I started liking photography. I wanted to say things through the pictures I took too. I wanted to explore the new world that fascinated me. Slowly the fascination turned into passion and I bought my first SLR.

I had been spending quality time with it for quite a while. But then I realized, as people grow old, new things and new events start taking priority. There are new responsibilities. There is higher expectation. At times these get to a point they become quite overwhelming. These are things you know you cannot ignore. These are things that need your attention at right times. All these mean less MY time which also translates to lesser time to keep doing what you are passionate about.

But I always believe that if you are really passionate about something, you will figure out a way to make room to get a little bit of time from your busy life; spend that all on what your are passionate about. If you have to do this efficiently, you must be a master of managing your time. I have always been amazed by people who are masters at this. It is really hard for me to figure out how they do it. I have read so much about this but the hard truth is theory can get you only so much. The rest you have to figure out by being you. There is no single solution for everyone. Everyones responsibilities are different. But at a high level, everyone can narrow it down to these few things:

  • Distractions – The most significant time hogger these days. Its the age of smartphones and social networking. Notifications, mails, chats, texts, the list is really endless. I have seen folks who are so distracted with all this that they have an attention span of a gold fish. If you are so distracted, you will never know when the day started or ended. If this evil haunts you, forget making time for something you are passionate about, you will not have a clue on how to make time for something you have to pay attention to.
  • Priorities – Learning and mapping things that take priority in your life. I have seen people who are workaholics and I have seen people who are family oriented. One common thing between these two sets of folks is that they have prioritized things that are important to them. Things that are higher on the chart will obviously get more time. Things on the lower end get very little or no time. Where does your passion fit into on this chart? Thats the big question.To make things complicated new things and new events in life start playing havoc  to this chart. It is really hard to keep this chart straight with so many things changing around you.
  • Level of Passion – Everyone is passionate about more than one thing. It can be mundane things you do everyday. Photography is what I already said I am passionate about. I also love spending time on TV. I love cooking and eating. I love reading online. I love a lot many other things. Though one may not tag these mundane things as passion, they are things that you spend most time doing. So when you compare your passion against all these small mundane things, where does it fit into? How does it fare when compared to other things you are passionate about?

I personally am still trying to figure out why I cannot make time for spending it on something that I was so passionate about a few years back. I am not able to make time for it but I sure am still passionate about it. Figuring this out is easier said than done. I hope I can figure out something before it is too late!

Have you been spending time wisely lately?


The Facebook 10th year Look back video feature went viral for a few days. In no time, most friends I knew had shared one. It got to a point where many folks got tired of seeing only that all over their walls. I am not sure about them but when I created mine, I couldn’t just stop from sharing it. Not just because I wanted others to watch it, it was because I wanted to watch it whenever I wanted to. To date, I don’t get tired watching it again and again. It is really hard not to smile every time I watch it.

The music, the images that were picked, the theme, the concept – there was something in it which made it very special to me. The pictures that were chosen by Facebook were from some of my most memorable and happiest moments of my life. What I noticed is that Ashu (my wife) is in most of those pictures. It has been close to 7 years since we have known each other now and it has been one heck of a happy journey so far! All these pictures bring back lot of happy memories we have spent as a couple and as a family now. Lots of memories and emotions flood my mind.

Since the time she has been in my life, I have got nothing but unconditional love from her. It is just hard for me not to love anything she does. The way she laughs, the way she talks, the way she fights with me, the way she scolds me (yup she does!), the energy she has, the list is endless… I often wondered how one person can change the whole world for you. Now that I have seen and experienced that, it is hard not to believe it. My life feels complete with her being around.

Our lives changed again when our little bundle of joy joined. We both had our own small little family now. A year and a half back seems ages to us now, since the time Arnu was born. We both were just too delighted to add more happiness to our lives. Now we never get tired having him around and spending all the time with him.

If I ever have a chance, I would want our lives to rewind back and I would want us to do all the same things we have done so far all over again. You both make my life special and I will be ever grateful for it!

Thanks to Facebook for striking the right chords with me. I get to relive many of my happy moments whenever I watch my Facebook Look back video!

Link to my Facebook Look Back Video

More than what you say you feel

Posted: August 14, 2010 in Life, Tech, Thoughts
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Am sure everyone often pauses and thinks deep into crazy things at times. I just had such a moment. I was just thinking about inventions that have transformed the world as we know it today and I was also contemplating on some things that could make our lives a lot better.

We all know humans have five important abilities (what we often refer to as five senses). Some people do often claim they have the additional sixth sense which is arguable – Let’s not get into that here. The five abilities that humans have known to have mastered so far:

  • Ability to hear
  • Ability to see
  • Ability to feel
  • Ability to taste
  • Ability to smell

Thanks to our fore-fathers and their life changing inventions, we now live in a world in which it is possible to share some of these senses with others; even with someone who may be sitting right across the world. With the invention of telephones and radios, people were able to share what they hear to people far away from where they were. Imagine the delight a grand parent would have had the first time they could hear their dear grand children’s voices. Though at times it may not possible for them to physically be there to see those little ones blabber off to glory, the voices over a long distance telephone call would make a world of difference to them.

Then there was the ability to share what one saw. Inventions of cameras, televisions, webcams, etc. have transformed societies and living styles. I feel lucky to have been born in a generation in which I can capture what I see and share it so easily with anyone who needs to see it. “Pictures speak a thousand words” as they say. Imagine trying to explain in words about your recent trip you had to the most breathtaking place without the ability to share what you see!

I was just thinking how different my world would have been without the abilities of sharing just these two senses with the people I care. Then I was contemplating what was next? What about the next sense of feel/touch? Would it be useful for a doctor/surgeon operating remotely to have the ability to feel the texture or harness/softness of the tumor he is operating on remotely? Would it make a difference to a solider who is thousands of miles away in a battle field to have the ability to touch and feel his new-born baby? The world of communication would be lot different if this was possible; won’t it?

I was thinking on how could it be possible to share such a thing digitally right across the world. Since I use Photoshop many times, the coloring schemes came to my mind. Using the color picker tool I can point to anywhere in a picture and know what exact color it is in. This would give me digitized values of that particular color in various color schemes. RGB for instance is one of the most commonly used color schemes. Providing values to indicate how much of Red, Green and Blue is used, computers now have the ability to show many millions of colors. So if I have to tell a friend of mine that I am seeing a Red rose, I now have the ability to indicate to him/her how red the rose is. In other words we are now able to quantify sight in a way.

If we apply the same kind of scheme/logic to the sense of touch, there may be many more vectors/variables. Some of them I can think of right now:

  • Hotness/coldness
  • Roughness/smoothness
  • Hardness/Softness

What about digitized values for these parameters? With the combination of these values it would be a good starting point to at least share/simulate what it feels like to touch something. Am sure there would be lots of inventions and technologies in industrial and military field by now which would do similar things but it’s still not available for commercial/personal use. Getting to this point is one step closer to the ultimate step. Once humans have fully understood and mastered the working of human brain; may be we can take this to the next level. The information about what we touch and feel through our skin reaches our brains through electrical signals via nerves in our body. If someday, we fully understand what these exact signals are and how this information is sent across to the brain, we can use the digital values in the form of something like the touch scheme I described have above and translate the digitized information into brain signals to make the recipient feel something he is not actually touching.

Wishful thinking you say? 🙂