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Elastic bands (popularly known as Rubber bands) are known for their elasticity. Pull it apart and release it, it assumes a similar shape back again. Every such band has a shelf life though. Every time you stretch it and release it, the rubber keeps losing elasticity. Keep doing it often and it would give way to pressure one day. Or stretch it too hard all at once and it might snap before you realize it. What ever way you do it, the band is never the same again. It can never be back to the same state it originally started with. Laws of physics at play here.

I was comparing this to relationships. I found this uncanny similarity between the two. Let me tell you how.

Every relationship has its ups and downs but they are kept together with a similar kind of elasticity. At times when it goes through stress, the band gets pulled apart. Then you patch up your problems and the stress on the band is released. The relationship comes back to its similar original shape again. But it is now not as good as it originally was. The fact that it was put under stress would always remain somewhere at the back of your mind. However hard you try, its close to impossible to bring it back to the original state.

Now keep doing this many times. Over and over again. At times pull it a bit, at times a lot. Every pull is pulling it away from its original shape/state. Cross the limits and one day it snaps free. Breakups and incurable sorrows.

On the other hand, keep the band as-is and don’t put any stress on it. It would get quite boring. After a while it might just decompose and lose everything it could have done. Lifeless and meaningless relationships!

Rubber bands need to be seasoned with care. You pull it too hard in the the first go and it snaps out without a fight. Early breakups and sorrows. It has a better chance of surviving if stresses are on a low side at start and the rubber gets seasoned. After a bit, it would have better chance of surviving a bit more stress. After a while a bit more. Gradual increase in stress makes us seasoned and we learn how to handle it well. A bit more and we readjust and learn again. Control the stress on that band!

Some bands are thick and some are thin. The better the band is, the better the survival rates. Similar analogy can be made with relationships. The more flexibility between the two, the thicker the band is.

Isn’t it a bizarre similarity!

What kind of bands are your relationships? What state are they presently in? Keep the elasticity in check. Something to think about…

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The Facebook 10th year Look back video feature went viral for a few days. In no time, most friends I knew had shared one. It got to a point where many folks got tired of seeing only that all over their walls. I am not sure about them but when I created mine, I couldn’t just stop from sharing it. Not just because I wanted others to watch it, it was because I wanted to watch it whenever I wanted to. To date, I don’t get tired watching it again and again. It is really hard not to smile every time I watch it.

The music, the images that were picked, the theme, the concept – there was something in it which made it very special to me. The pictures that were chosen by Facebook were from some of my most memorable and happiest moments of my life. What I noticed is that Ashu (my wife) is in most of those pictures. It has been close to 7 years since we have known each other now and it has been one heck of a happy journey so far! All these pictures bring back lot of happy memories we have spent as a couple and as a family now. Lots of memories and emotions flood my mind.

Since the time she has been in my life, I have got nothing but unconditional love from her. It is just hard for me not to love anything she does. The way she laughs, the way she talks, the way she fights with me, the way she scolds me (yup she does!), the energy she has, the list is endless… I often wondered how one person can change the whole world for you. Now that I have seen and experienced that, it is hard not to believe it. My life feels complete with her being around.

Our lives changed again when our little bundle of joy joined. We both had our own small little family now. A year and a half back seems ages to us now, since the time Arnu was born. We both were just too delighted to add more happiness to our lives. Now we never get tired having him around and spending all the time with him.

If I ever have a chance, I would want our lives to rewind back and I would want us to do all the same things we have done so far all over again. You both make my life special and I will be ever grateful for it!

Thanks to Facebook for striking the right chords with me. I get to relive many of my happy moments whenever I watch my Facebook Look back video!

Link to my Facebook Look Back Video